Dear Reader,

The grace you hand out so easily stops at your own door.

Your friend is going through it and you tell her to be patient with herself. Your sister snaps at you and you wonder what kind of week she must be having.

A coworker drops the ball and you find five generous reasons why. Then you forget a text and the verdict is instant.

You miss a deadline by a day. You react instead of respond. And the woman who gave everyone else context becomes a prosecutor when the defendant is herself.

Most people who try to open their third eye start with a forty minute meditation.

There's a much smaller doorway in. Three seconds, done correctly, and you'll feel the difference behind your forehead before you finish reading this sentence.

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That's all it takes to know if it's for you.

I used to think this was high standards. It was not.

It was the only kind of love I had ever known, and I was busy giving it away while starving the woman who was supposed to receive it.

Here is the honest truth. You are not holding yourself to a higher standard.

You are holding yourself to a different one. The compassion you so freely extend to everyone else is not a luxury you have to earn.

It is the baseline you are owed by yourself.

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The ego runs this because somewhere along the way, you learned that being hardest on yourself was how you stayed safe. If you got there first, no one else could.

If you were already disappointed in yourself, their disappointment could not touch you. It felt like control. It was just preemptive abandonment.

Your one move today is this. The next time you catch yourself in the courtroom, ask one question: would I say this to a woman I love?

If the answer is no, do not say it to yourself. Replace it with the sentence you would offer her, and let it land in your own chest firs

This is your magnetic mindset. You become the first one to extend grace to yourself, not the last.

The standard you hold for others is the floor of how you treat you, not the ceiling. And the people who love you start meeting you with the softness you have finally stopped withholding from yourself.

Something to take with you today. The compassion you give everyone else was always meant for you too.

You are not the exception to your own kindness.

Something to ask yourself today:

What would you say to a woman you love who did the exact thing you are currently not forgiving yourself for?

Mindfully Yours,
Magnetic Mindset